Love is All that Matters

Monday, October 7, 2013

I'm feeling like having a heart to heart. I hope you're ready...

I never realized how much other people's opinions affect me. I mean I knew they did, but I guess I never realized the extent that they bother me...

Getting engaged has only serves to make me so much more aware of this. As you might suspect, getting engaged is a big deal so people always have an opinion. My parents weren't really happy. So that took a big tole on me.

I was with my parents when I ran across my neighbor and she asked if I got engaged. I said yes, but was inadvertently short with her because I know it's a topic that I tread lightly when I'm around my parents. As we walked away I thought how I shouldn't have to smother my happiness because somebody else doesn't like it. I should be happy, period. The end.

Another way I've found out that people's opinion matters is with my ring. Honestly, my ring isn't the biggest or most expensive. And yes, I had thought and even mentioned to J about upgrading it. But in reality the only reason I considered this was because of other people's opinions. Which is so stupid and wrong.

My best friend got engaged a few month after me and her ring is bigger and more noticeable than mine. When we saw each other for the first time after we both got engaged we showed each other our rings and I could hear by the tone in her voice she thought it was small and hers was so much better. I went around for a week feeling like my ring was inadequate. But then I realized that this was the ring I wanted and nothing could replace that feeling when I saw this ring in the box in J's hand. That is what makes the ring, not the size of the diamond.

I was catching up on Raising Hope where Jimmy is trying to get the perfect ring for Sabrina. And in reality all Sabrina wanted was a small beat up ring because it's not the ring that matters. The ring is just a symbol for the love you share and your lives together.

All in all, I think love is the most important thing, not people's opinions or the size of your diamond. Love is all that matters. Thanks for the chat!

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  1. Oh girl, I feel for you I really do! When I was married my MIL wasn't super excited and it SUCKED, it really did. And you have to just ignore it. The BEST way to get back at people (not that you have to get back at your parents) is to just BE HAPPY. So much easier said than done... I know.

    Also the ring, girl I feel ya. My engagement ring was a wedding band lol. Like Carl proposed to me with a wedding band.... lol. But he was sooooo excited and he told me all about how he spent so long finding what he thought was the PERFECT ring. Now... it's a wedding band mind you and I really have no idea what was going through his head when he purchased it or if he even knows the difference between a wedding band and engagement ring. A guy at work even said to him "When are you going to buy Katie a real ring?" and I felt so bad for him. But to be honest, I don't care if mine is a "wedding band" and if maybe my husband has no idea what is going on because our MARRIAGE is so much more solid than a lot of people with the FLASHY rings. Plus, we saved some money not having to buy a "band" for the ceremony LOL

  2. Love is all that matters, I know it's hard but don't let others get you down. The main thing is that you are happy and that's all that matters.

  3. You are right! Love is so much more important that the size of a ring. I can relate to you so much. My parents did not support my engagement because my husband and I hadn't been together that long. My husband also proposed to a smaller ring, and one in gold when I'm a silver person. Despite it not being my taste and not at all what I would have picked out for myself I love it because it was his Grandmothers and has been passed down through the family. That alone instantly made me love it! To hell with what everyone else thinks as long as you are happy that's all that matters!

  4. Aww girl I love your ring--it's small but elegant. I feel ya on the parents thing though. Mine did not support our engagement at all and actually did not come to our wedding. It hurt but I learned that you can't live your life by other people's opinions. You're completely right--love outweighs everything else!

  5. I think your ring is beautiful :-) I agree with your outlook: you and your fiance's happiness is all that matters here. Other people can have their opinions, but it's your relationship and your happiness that counts. Congrats again :-)

  6. Who cares what other people think... You do YOU and that's what counts in the end. xoxo...

  7. I hate how competitive and petty some girls can be about the size of their ring. I think my ring is the most beautiful ring I have ever seen, but not because of the ring- it's because of the man who picked it out and gave it to me. That's what it's all about I think :)


  8. It is really sad that everyone can't just be happy for you. Getting engaged should be exciting. And even people who aren't thrilled about it should pretend! And your ring is beautiful. Size does NOT matter. The simple fact that you love each other enough to make that committment to love forever and all eternity is what matters. Poo on the opinion of other. Poo :)