The Military Life

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

When I read on Mal's blog about a link up for military significant others I initially wanted to participate for sure. Life got a little busy and I completely forgot about the link up until this morning when my feed was full of other ladies linking up.

After reading so many lovely wives posts I didn't think I was entitled to my opinion. John and I aren't married and I haven't had to be fully embrace military life yet. But with that said, I always jump at the chance to make new friends that have things in common with me especially if I can learn from them.

Let's go back a little over two years. I am in college starting to celebrate because my senior year is almost over! My college is having this huge spring festival and I'm getting all geared up to play some volleyball in the mud and spend my night listening to Justin Moore. Except there is a turn of events that changes the whole ballgame. I meet this handsome guy and we hit it off immediately. John and I ended up spending the whole weekend together. Then Sunday evening comes and back off to Charleston he must go. He's not a college student from down the road, he's an Airman. {I feel like that should be said as if he were superman -- or maybe only in my head}

I had a previous relationship with a guy in the military. I wasn't anxious to jump into another one. I didn't know when I would see John again or how we could make it work, but I was willing to give it a try. He actually surprised me by coming back up the next weekend. I knew I had a keeper then.

For the whole two years John and I have been together he has been stationed in Charleston, South Carolina while I've been in Virginia. The distance has been one of the most difficult parts of our relationship thus far. Luckily he hasn't been relocated to anywhere further away and as far as I know PCSing isn't in the immediate future either.

I have yet to encounter all the joys of being a military wife but I've had the chance to get my feet a little wet. One of the first and foremost topics of military SOs on my mind is accepting the military life. As a future Air Force wife, I sometimes have trouble knowing that I won't always be able to come first in John's life. There will always be changes coming and things I may not agree with. Just in the two years we've been together I feel like I've gotten better with going with the flow. I now realize that if I dislike something, it won't matter because within the year it will most likely change anyway.

The one thing that doesn't matter about relationship status is my pride for John. I don't think I could be more proud of him. I love showing my support for him and his career choice. One event I look forward to each year is the Air Force Ball. While I was there I noticed one thing that annoyed me to no end. I hated seeing wives at the ball that made it seem like getting a root canal was more fun. I am not sure if they thought they were better than John and I because their husband had been in the service longer with a higher rank or they were just plain bored out of their mind. But I know one thing for sure is that no matter how long John stays in the Air Force or the number of formal events we go to, I will always have pride for him, the country we love and stand beside him with a genuine smile on my face.

Although this might not be how I imagined my life to end up, I wouldn't dare dream it any other way now. I am looking forward to the journey ahead of John and I and can't wait to see where we end up along the way.

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  1. You are absolutely entitled to an opinion! You sacrifice as well and don't let anyone tell you different. You are amazing!

  2. Yall are so precious! I loved getting to hear about your experience! :)

    Love Always,

  3. You are definitely entitled to an opinion. You go through just as much as a wife does.